In a world constantly evolving with new challenges, social pressures and digital influences, standing up for yourself has never been more important — especially for high school pupils.
Last week the country was rocked by the suicide of a grade 9 pupil at Spine Road High School in Cape Town, allegedly as a result of bullying, however an investigation into these claims is still underway.
The incident has sparked renewed discussions about bullying in schools and the sometimes fatal consequences these behaviours can have.
Whether it’s navigating friendships, handling academic stress, or dealing with online negativity, self-advocacy is a crucial skill that can shape your future and boost your confidence.
Why it matters
Standing up for yourself isn’t just about defending yourself in an argument — it’s about knowing your worth, setting boundaries, and ensuring your voice is heard.
With social media playing such a huge role in communication, many pupils face cyberbullying, peer pressure, or unrealistic expectations. Being able to assert yourself helps maintain self-respect and mental well-being, allowing you to develop resilience in an ever-changing world.
Confidence doesn’t come overnight, but taking small steps to stand up for yourself can make a huge difference. Start by:
Speaking up: If something doesn’t feel right, say so. Whether it’s a classroom discussion, a group project, or a personal matter, your opinions are valuable.
Setting boundaries: Not every situation or person deserves your energy. Learn to say no when something goes against your values or wellbeing.
Believing in yourself: Trust your abilities and don’t be afraid to challenge norms. The more you back yourself up, the more others will respect your voice.
Overcoming fear
Many pupils hesitate to stand up for themselves due to fear of judgment or conflict. However, allowing others to take advantage of you can lead to stress, anxiety, and diminished self-worth. Instead of staying silent, practice self-assertion with supportive friends or mentors. Over time, this will help you feel more in control of your own life.
The long-term impact
Learning to stand up for yourself now will benefit you in the long run. Whether in college, the workplace, or personal relationships, having the courage to express yourself will lead to stronger connections and better opportunities. Employers and educators admire individuals who can confidently voice their ideas and advocate for what they deserve.
In this generation, where external pressures are at an all-time high, standing up for yourself is more than a skill — it’s a necessity. By embracing self-advocacy, you pave the way for a future where you feel empowered, respected, and in control of your path.
The next time you hesitate to speak up, remember: your voice matters, and so do you. — Melissa Davids is founder of Grown and Glow Therapy with Mel. 
